Jennifer Daily, LICSW Updates

Have you seen the movie Inside Out? It's a really cool movie! They used brain scientists to help make that movie- all the feelings, and the way they work, and how they change over time- that's how it really works! We also have 5 basic emotions! Joy, Anger, Fear, Sadness, and Disgust. Every other emotion we have are just a combination of these. If we know this information, and we can name these emotions, we can then better know what's happening, and then we can better control and guide our feelings.

Today we talk about the differences between Anxiety, Stress, and Worry.

Anxiety - Happens in your mind and your body, but is a false alarm.

For example, when you get all nervous and sweaty before you have to talk in front of the class, or sing at your yearly concert.

Worry - Thought based (happens in your mind), obsessive, negative, and repetitive.

Like, if you have trouble sleeping because of thinking over and over again about something bad that might happen.

Stress - Body based, event based (a situation caused it to happen), exceeds our resources (meaning we just don't know how to deal with it)

I don't know about you, but the whole world taking a massive sick day because of a big virus that could make everyone very sick is something I don't really know how to deal with.

Right now there is a lot of stress happening. There's a lot going on that needs to be dealt with, and it's very hard. In this video below, we talk about ways to deal with this stress by stopping, getting clear about what we have control over, and thinking about what we can do right now that will help with our stress.

Adults are so stressed out right now... and let's be honest, we were really stressed out before there was a global pandemic. Today we talk a little about the demands and expectations put on us as adults. We have unfair and inappropriate work expectations, social media that allows us to compare ourselves to branded and curated versions of others, hyper-polarized attitudes and thinking, impossible societal expectations, economic anxiety, and that's before we add in a global pandemic.

We all need to step back, ground ourselves in reality, and remember that no one wakes up saying we are going to be the worst person ever. Society is telling us that we are supposed to be great at everything. But the truth is we all do well- when we can. It's ok for our kids to be watching screens, it's ok to zone out on your phone a little, and it's ok to not be grateful about every single thing in your life. We can't be good at all the things all the time. Remember, you are a human being, and none of us can be really good at everything that's required of us right now. So what's adequate? Find your "good enough" for both you and your family.