Jennifer Daily, LICSW Updates

Today we continue talking about working in an anti-racist manner. Being anti-racist means that we are actively working to undo racism in our community.

One of the things we can use to fight racism is to work on having a growth mindset. Sometimes, we feel afraid to make mistakes. Maybe something is really complicated, and we get frustrated or overwhelmed because it's hard to understand. That can make us have a fixed mindset. Good news- there are three things that we can remind ourselves of every day that will help us move from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset!

  • I can get smarter.

  • Learning is my goal.

  • Effort makes me stronger.

If you can keep telling your brain these three things, you will spend more time and work harder on things, and you will achieve more. What does this have to do with being anti-racist? If we use our growth mindset, we know that it's ok if we don't know an answer, or if someone has a criticism for us in our work, because we can learn more about being anti-racist ally, and once we learn more, we can make an even better effort!

Looking for ways that you can learn more, get smarter, and put in more effort right now? Check out these links to get started:

There are a lot of really big problems in the world today. So many of us are worried about so many problems, and they are weighing very heavy on our hearts and minds. We have to remember that it's actually wonderful to have this much compassion and worry and care about others. It's important that we keep our hearts open and aware of everything that is going on in our community.

But this can sometimes make it a bit hard to get to sleep at night, can't it?

One of the things we can use is "constructive worry technique". Talk to your grown-ups about all of the things that you are worried about. Have them help you make a list with two columns. One column is the "problems" column. Put all your worries in the problems column. Our other column is the "solutions" column. So, for each problem, think of something that you can do that might help be a solution to that problem. Some problems are too big for one person to solve, but we can all take small steps that will add up to a BIG solution!

Another thing we can do is count backwards with our breath. There is a demonstration of how to do that in this video:

Today, we talk about one of the biggest problems that has every existed: Racism.

Racism is a very pernicious thing. It is easy to say that we aren't racist, but it is harder to recognize we all benefit from structural racism in our societies. How do we start looking at our own unconscious biases and the ways white privilege affects our lives, and teach our kids to be anti-racist?

We have the ability to raise a generation of children who are anti-racist as long as we are being active and intentional about it. There are loads of resources that parents can use to talk to their kids about racism. Here are some of them: